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Why You Should Set Goals for Your Divorce

While it may seem like a strange concept to set goals for your divorce, the benefits of doing so are numerous. Goals keep you grounded, provide stability, and help you determine what your future will look like without your spouse in it. Additionally, setting goals during a transition period prove extremely beneficial and can help you in all areas of your life, including your financial wellbeing. Today, we will review some of the benefits of setting goals during a divorce.

Helps you finalize your divorce in a timely manner

While this also depends on your spouse’s willingness to compromise and negotiate, determining exactly what you want to reach a final divorce agreement is beneficial for everyone involved. If you know what you want, you are less likely to get involved in disputes with your spouse and cause unnecessary drama.

If you have no idea as to what you want from your divorce settlement, you will waste time trying to finalize your divorce.

Determines what kind of divorce outcome you could potentially have

While you cannot determine how your divorce will turn out, you can choose divorce options that line up with your values. Doing so at least gives you some control. If you set the intention to have an amicable divorce and then seek out divorce methods that attempt to achieve these results, you are much more likely to resolve your divorce in this manner.

Do you want a more amicable divorce? Try divorce mediation if this is the case. Would you like additional support from professionals, such as a financial advisor and therapist, during your divorce? Maybe research collaborative divorce.

Gives you the opportunity to establish what kind of support you will need

If you do not take the time to consider what kind of support you will need during a divorce, you could stress yourself out. You may require the following types of support:

  • Family lawyer’s services
  • Financial budgeting
  • Mental health coaching
  • Estate and tax planning
  • Family counselor or therapist
  • Childcare providers
  • Real estate agent
  • Professional movers (if you may need to move out of your marital home)

While it may seem overwhelming to consider hiring all these professionals, it is important to get a good understanding of the type of support you will need. By creating a plan, you can determine a budget and a timeline for these services.

Gets you ready for life after divorce

Part of setting goals for your divorce is to help you pave the path for your new future. This may mean you might have to compromise a little more than you initially wanted during your divorce proceedings to set yourself up for future success. There is nothing wrong with that. For example, what happens if both you and your spouse want to keep the marital home? This could be a contentious issue that continues until one individual concedes or the matter gets taken to court. However, what if you sit down, consider your future goals, and realize you want to start a business more than anything else within the next year. Maybe it is worth it to you then to take your share of the home in cash and use it towards that business, giving your marital home to your spouse.

Setting goals for your divorce does not just benefit you, it also benefits your spouse and their future too.

Figure out the relationship you want to have with your ex-spouse

The first question you should ask yourself is “what kind of relationship, if any, do I want to have with my ex-spouse after our divorce is finalized?” Doing so will help you plan for the type of divorce you will pursue. In the event you want to keep an amicable relationship with your spouse as you will both be raising children together, you probably want to avoid a long, contentious battle in court.

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